Abraham Lincoln's Letter to his Son's Head Master

Abraham Lincoln, the 16th president of the united states of America (1861 – 1865) is one of the world’s great statesmen for all time. Here is a letter written by Abraham Lincoln to the head master of his school in which his son was studying, a letter so typical of the man who bore malice towards none and had charity for all….

Respected Sir,
He will have to learn, I know, that all men are not just, all men are not true.
But teach him also that for every scoundrel there is a hero: that far every selfish politician, there is a dedicated leader…

Teach him that for every enemy there is a friend. It will take time, I know a long time, but teach, if you can, that a dollar earned is of more value then five of found.

Teach him, to learn to lose…And also to enjoy winning. Steer him away from envy, if you can, teach in the secret of quiet laughter.

Teach him, if you can the wonder of books…But also given quiet time wonder the eternal mystery of birds in the sky, bees in the sun, and flowers on the green hillside.
In a school teach him, it is far more honorable to fail than to cheat…

Teach him to have faith in his own idea, even if anyone else tell him they are wrong…
Teach him to be gentle with gentle people and tough with tough.

Teach him to listen to all men…But teach him also to filter all he hears on a screen of truth, and take only the good one that comes through.

Teach him, if you can, how to laugh when he is sad.
Teach him there is no shame in tear.

Teach them to sell his brawn and brain to the highest bidder but never to put a prize tag on his heart and soul.

Teach him gently, but do not cuddle him, because only the test of fire makes the fine steel.

Teach him always to have sublime faith in himself because then he will always have some sublime faith in mankind.

This is a big order, but see what can you do…
He is such a fine little fellow, my son! Dad”


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Resolove Conflits in Between Boy and Girl in LOVE

If you view conflict as something that shouldn't happen, something that harms relationships, it becomes negative. And then you avoid it and hope it will go away. But if you see conflict as a fact of life, an opportunity to strengthen relationships, you have a way of resolving conflict by turning it into something creative.

Try these "10 Ways to Resolve Conflict."

Agree on a mutually acceptable time and place to discuss the conflict.

State the problem as you see it and list your concerns.
Make "I" statements.
Withhold judgments, accusations, and absolute statements ("always" or "never").

• Let the other person have his/her say.
• Do not interrupt or contradict.
• Do not allow name-calling, put-downs, threats, obscenities, yelling, or intimidating behavior.

Listen and ask questions.
Ask fact-based questions (who? what? where? when? how?) to make sure you understand the situation.
Ask exploratory questions (what if? what are you saying? is this the only solution to our problem? what if we did such and such? are there other alternatives to this situation?).
Avoid accusatory "why" questions (why are you like that?).
Use your own words to restate what you think the other person means and wants.
Acknowledge the person's feelings and perceptions.

Stick to one conflict at a time — to the issue at hand.
Do not change the subject or allow it to be changed.
"I understand your concern, but I'd like to finish what we're talking about before we discuss it."

Seek common ground.
What do you agree on?
What are your shared concerns?

Brainstorm solutions to the conflict that allow everyone to win.

Request behavior changes only.
Don't ask others to change their attitudes.
Don't ask them to "feel" differently about something.
Don't ask them to "be" different.
If you want them to "stop doing" something, suggest an alternative action.

Agree to the best way to resolve the conflict and to a timetable for implementing it.
Who will do what by when?

If the discussion breaks down, reschedule another time to meet. Consider bringing in a third party.

Accept criticism impartially

If possible, be certain that you'll do a thing before you promise to do it. Be true to your word, always. Accept criticism impartially. Remember, truth is, in all things, the final arbiter.