29 January 2010

10 Top Tips at work place to boost your Career


Who would you rather work with: a genius star performer who’s an incredible pain in the you-know-what or a “merely” competent worker who’s a breeze to get along with?


Scary thought: You probably spend more hours of the day with your work colleagues than with any other group of human beings. And the great majority of the time you don’t even get to choose them. You all have different backgrounds, ages, and interests and yet you need to function well and smoothly with these people.

We live in a world where the ability to get things done as a team is more and more prized. You will be judged (and promoted) on how well you work with customers, colleagues, superiors, and those lower down on the corporate ladder. It’s one of the major keys to career success. While you probably learned in kindergarten how to play well with others, sometimes we lose track of the basics. So here are 10 useful tips:

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1. Heads up. When people talk to you, don’t continue tapping away at your keyboard. Instead, give the person the gift of your undivided attention, if only for a minute. It sounds like a small thing. But the art of truly paying attention is a dying art, and if you excel at it you will stand out.

2. Listen actively. Many people don’t express themselves well. You may need to look beneath the surface of their words to get to the core of what they’re trying to say. Be a little patient, and don’t interrupt, or jump on small mistakes.

3. Show (sincere) interest. You may not want to be BFFs with your cubicle mate but it won’t kill you to ask, “How was your weekend?” Listen for a couple of minutes, and then turn back to the work at hand. Now, was that so hard?

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4. Assume goodwill. Most people are sincerely trying to do a good job. So no matter how stupid or incompetent or misguided your colleagues’ actions might be, consider the possibility that they believed they were doing the right thing at the time. Try to look at the situation from their perspectives. You might learn something. At the very least, you’ll earn their gratitude.

5. Share credit. Even if a success was all your idea you will look like even more of a winner if you share the glory. Besides, does anybody really ever accomplish something entirely on their own?

6. Be open to the possibility that you might be wrong. Hey, it’s possible. At least accept that there’s room for improvement. Your ideas and work will benefit from the input of others. Really.

7. Honor your commitments. Be the kind of person who says he’ll have the report done by Tuesday and has it done by Tuesday. Reliability and integrity not only make you look good, they’re contagious and will contribute to a constructive work environment.

8. Show appreciation. Even though it may be someone’s job to supply you with, say, paper clips, when that person delivers the paper clips, say “thank you.” It costs you nothing, and it fosters an atmosphere of civility.

9. Speak to others in a clear, direct, respectful, pleasant, and positive way. It inspires your coworkers to treat you likewise.

10. Finally, don’t expect to like everybody. And don’t expect everybody to like you. As with any group of people, you’re going to get along with some better than others, and there may be a few you just can’t stand. Be tolerant. Pick your battles. Sometimes it’s just enough that the work gets done.

15 January 2010

Seven Powerful elements of Leadership

Leadership


”A leader takes people where they want to go. A great leader takes people where they don’t necessarily want to go, but ought to be.” ~ Rosalynn Carter

Leadership

The seven elements of leadership:

1. Leaders challenge the status quo.
2. Leaders create a culture around their goal and involve others in that culture.
3. Leaders have an extraordinary amount of curiosity about the world they're trying to change.
4. Leaders use charisma (in a variety of forms) to attract and motivate followers.
5. Leaders communicate their vision of the future.
6. Leaders commit to a vision and make decisions based on that commitment.
7. Leaders connect their followers to one another.

14 January 2010

How to keep women HAPPY -PART- 2


Keep her happy rule #4 - The next rule is to be careful with her jealousy triggers. Basically this means - don't obviously ogle over other girls. Girls don't like to feel insecure, and they don't understand that men are visual beings who check out other women. Women are biologically engineered to seek a lifetime protector, so realize that checking out other women in front of your partner may make things testy between you two.

Keep her happy rule #5 - Keep her smiling and laughing. Men love good looks - but as I said earlier, women love a personality, including his sense of humor. A healthy relationship involves lots of laughs and some inside jokes.

Keep her happy rule #6 - Find common interests and activities, and keep things fresh in the relationship. Take an interest in her hobbies and interests, and introduce her to some of yours. Constantly learn and explore with each other, it keeps you both young, and keeps the relationship healthy.

Keep her happy rule #7 - Stay interesting. I know from experience that once you have the girl, you might become lazy in a lot of different respects. This will eventually kill the attraction, and the relationship. Keep yourself fresh, groom yourself, buy a new t-shirt once in a blue moon. Don't get sloppy or you could lose her.

Keep her happy rule #4 - The next rule is to be careful with her jealousy triggers. Basically this means - don't obviously ogle over other girls. Girls don't like to feel insecure, and they don't understand that men are visual beings who check out other women. Women are biologically engineered to seek a lifetime protector, so realize that checking out other women in front of your partner may make things testy between you two.

Keep her happy rule #5 - Keep her smiling and laughing. Men love good looks - but as I said earlier, women love a personality, including his sense of humor. A healthy relationship involves lots of laughs and some inside jokes.

Keep her happy rule #6 - Find common interests and activities, and keep things fresh in the relationship. Take an interest in her hobbies and interests, and introduce her to some of yours. Constantly learn and explore with each other, it keeps you both young, and keeps the relationship healthy.

Keep her happy rule #7 - Stay interesting. I know from experience that once you have the girl, you might become lazy in a lot of different respects. This will eventually kill the attraction, and the relationship. Keep yourself fresh, groom yourself, buy a new t-shirt once in a blue moon. Don't get sloppy or you could lose her.

Keep her happy rule #8 - Entertain her friends. If you win over a woman's friends and/or family, you gain major points. She can now trust you even more, and this only increases your value. I wouldn't try to become best friends with any of her friends, but keep things light, funny, and entertaining. This always works in your favor.

Keep her happy rule #9 - Be considerate of her feelings. Women are more emotional beings than men. Women want to feel understood. Give her some support and she will appreciate you for it. Don't fight her bad moods.

Keep her happy rule #10 - Always be open to try new things. When you start dating a girl, things are new and exciting. After a while, the two of you may find yourself in predictable routine. The more you shake things up, the more you will enjoy each other and learn about each other. This keeps the relationship healthy and growing.

There you have it, ten easy-enough rules to follow if you are serious about keeping your relationships strong. If you don't pay attention to these rules, you'll find out the hard way about the reality of a stale, fearful relationship... they don't last.

How to keep women HAPPY -PART- 1

Today I would like to give you the main points about
Keeping a woman happy, which is vital for a healthy relationship. Here are several tips to keep a girl happy - pay attention and reap the rewards.


I have some more points to blog..bookmark ..for series....

Keep her happy rule #1 - Always be yourself; don't supplicate. There are guys out there who think they aren't good enough to attract a jaw-dropping beautiful, sexy woman, so they put on an act. A confident man doesn't act like this. As I write this article, I'm in INDIA, where there are plenty of amazing girls holding onto the arm of an out of shape dude with a pony style haircut. It just goes to show that women are more attracted to confidence and personality than looks.

Keep her happy rule #2 - Notice the little things. Women are all about the details. Does she have a favorite candy, a favorite flower, color, etc.? Get creative, surprise her with little momentos, she'll appreciate these things. I've met guys who try to impress girls with big gifts, but the reality is the women appreciate the smaller gifts a lot more in general.

Keep her happy rule #3 - This one is pretty simple: Appreciate her. Never take your woman for granted, let her know from time to time why you value her, what you find so irresistible about her.

Second part continues....

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